Here is an insert of the preface of the book " your child comes home from school, excited to see you, the parent. She hasn't had lunch in a while, so she tells you she wants a snack. You list the different snacks she can have: an apple, an orange, and maybe even some blueberries. Your child makes it clear that she doesn't want to eat fruit; she would like a yummy cookie instead. As, the parent, explain to her the benefits of eating fruit: it's healthy, it helps her grow big and strong, etc. However, your child insists that you let her have a cookie. You patiently state again the benefits of fruit, that she hasn't had dinner yet, and that, if she eats a cookie, she will spoil her dinner. Your child throws a temper tantrum because she knows you won't get a cookie. You stand your ground and tell her she cannot have a cookie. She screams at the top of her lungs, and you send her to her room so she can calm down. What you have just done is? Boundary setting!"